My appointments are always so enjoyable! Everything is so comfortable, and focused on HEALTH, instead of treatment of problems. Of course, if there is a problem, we treat it, but the pregnancy itself is viewed as a normal, physiological process that doesn't need a whole lot of "help". Nutrition, yes. Education, yes. Fitness, yes. Desiree and Aimee are probably more "hippie" than Peggy, but they are very respectful. At this point in our lives, our family can't afford to go as far as I'd like to in the nutrition department, and Aimee and Desiree are very non-judgmental about all of that. They know I give nutrition my best shot and do what I can with what I have, and trust the body to make up for anything I would give it in an ideal world, but cannot. The truth is, food is the best medicine and I love herbs and natural healing. I understand and believe that. Avoiding problems is far more effective than treating them with pharmaceuticals. So I do what I can with what I have. They appreciate my efforts and are very respectful. At first, getting to know them, I was worried about what they'd think of me and the contents of my fridge. They are so cool and easy-going that I shouldn't have worried.
So if you're wondering how a typical midwife appointment goes, it's something like this:
Aimee or Desiree arrives, and, after asking how I feel and giving me a hug, they ask for a drink of water, or go ahead and use my bathroom. (told you it was relaxed!) Then we sit in the living room and they get out my chart (either paper or online) and start asking questions...most of the time we get off subject because Arden is running around, or we just start chatting. They hand me a Dixie cup and a urineanalysis strip and I take a little trip to the bathroom....and if I haven't weighed recently, I run upstairs to weigh. More chatting about everything. More Arden getting crazy or needing a diaper change. Good thing they are patient! After taking blood pressure and pulse, and if needed, a finger prick for iron levels, I lay down and she'll [ETA: forgot to mention the fundal height measurement, which is before she palpates] palpate to determine the baby's position. After this, she'll get out the fetoscope and take the baby's heart rate. This last time, she (Aimee) let Arden listen, too! Arden loved it. Aimee was her hero! She was quite upset when Aimee had to put away the fetoscope...she wanted to keep listening to the baby. By all appearances, she seemed to really grasp the reality of the baby in my belly. After listening to the baby, we talk a while longer about pregnancy or non-pregnancy related topics. Oh, and also they check my lower legs for edema. The entire appointment usually lasts around an hour, sometimes longer if there's a lot to chat about (like this last one! I think she was here closer to an hour and 25 minutes). Oh, and every appointment they alternate, so I can get to know them equally. Their client load is small enough that they both attend MOST every birth (unless there are two at once, which happens rarely), so the alternating is really nice.
Anyway, I just had to share how happy I am with our choice of midwives. They are so sweet and I am thrilled they'll be with us for the birth of our second little one! Being respected and an active participant in my own prenatal care is so awesome. I don't feel one bit like an observer or bystander. In my case, I enjoy knowing exactly what's going on and what I can do to resolve any issues naturally. Not waiting until a problem gets out of control to "fix" it with a drug. Not that I would refuse treatment like that if it became necessary, but that I can know what I can do, and do what I CAN to avoid a situation where it does.
Ok, I'm really starting to wonder how this post became so long. It was supposed to be a short, easy read on why I love my midwives, but it turned into somewhat of a wordy epistle. Anyway, here's a picture of the two lovely ladies:
Desiree is a great artist as well...she does henna and also creates some adorable onesies--I'd like to get ahold of one of her batiked "born at home" onesies!